Key Takeaways:
[4:30] What are social skills, and when do they begin?
[6:50] Kolby’s personal experience with ADHD
[9:48] The difference between social anxiety and social deficits
[11:50] Strategies to help kids overcome social deficits
[15:07] Teaching social skills by age
[21:42] When parents should seek outside help with social deficits
[26:12] How executive function challenges affect social skills
[27:54] At what ages is coaching beneficial?
[31:04] A start-today tip
[34:10] Where to find Kolby online
Memorable Moments:
“You start connecting with your kid pretty much the moment they come out.”
“90% of children with ADHD have some sort of language deficit.”
“Just because you hear the words doesn’t mean it’s computing.”
”You are causing thoughts and feelings in the person in front of you, no matter what you do – the way you dress, the way you look, everything you do is causing thoughts and feelings in other people and if you don’t understand that, you’re not getting social skills.”
“80% of what we do in conversation is nonverbal.”
”We have to understand, number one, that you are causing thoughts and feelings in other people, if you like it or not.”
“Joy is a choice. Happiness is a choice.”
“The way in which we carry ourselves will carry over to our children. If we are doom and gloom, expect your child to be doom and gloom.”
“You are the thermostat. You are not the thermometer. Your children are going to go up and down, but you have to stay at a cool 75.”
“You’ve got to be able to regulate your own emotions because our kids with ADHD, they’re 0-60 in no time flat.”
“When you and I are together, my job is to make you feel good so you call me and want to hang out with me again. So if they don’t feel good, they’re not making other people feel good.”
How to Connect with Kolby Kail
Website: https://familyfirstspeechtherapy.com/
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