34 – Executive Functioning with Elaine Taylor-Klaus
34 - Executive Functioning with Elaine Taylor-Klaus
Tips to Help You NOT Blame Your Child with ADHD

On this week’s edition of Soaring Child, we’re joined by Elaine Taylor-Klaus, who’s an author, parent educator, and certified coach, as well as the CEO of ImpactParents.com. She co-created the Sanity School Behavior Therapy Training Program to support parents of ADHD kids.

A lot of kids with ADHD have poor executive functioning skills, which help us organize, think, plan, and prioritize. It’s basically how our mind works to get everything done. Executive functioning includes memory issues, emotional management, hyperactivity, sequencing, action, and engagement. These all interact with one another, so the challenge isn’t in just one area. With ADHD, executive functioning can be impacted significantly, with kids not knowing how to complete tasks even if their mental abilities are quite high.

Parents of children with ADHD need to be trained to understand how to create an environment that’s supportive for their kids who have difficulty with executive functioning. The parents’ behavior is a critical factor in helping kids change. So is nutrition and mindset. Shifting our perspective allows for behaviors to change, which in turn changes the outcome.

Make sure you’ve pinpointed the right problem by breaking it down and looking at what’s really happening. Take it in small parts to solve the bigger behavioral issues. As a parent, you can do it. You just can’t do it all at once.

You should also enroll your child collaboratively in the process of understanding how you can solve this problem together. This gives them a sense of ownership.

Our kids need positive parenting in the context of understanding executive function and setting appropriate expectations. To feel seen, respected, and regarded in the relationship is the core of all of it.

 Show Notes

Key Takeaways:

[3:13] Why Elaine started Impact Parents

[5:11] Why parents have to be trained first for their kids with ADHD

[6:46] The role of nutrition in treating ADHD

[8:22] Why mindset matters

[13:21] Definition of executive functioning

[15:06] The different areas that are impacted in executive functioning

[17:46] The Coach Approach to Parenting

[24:13] Working toward long-term goals

[36:23] Parenting teens with ADHD



Memorable Quotes:

“A lot of the behavior management comes from really connecting to our kids in a relationship and building trust so that we can guide them to make healthier, better choices for themselves.”

“Our job as parents is to understand what’s going on with our kids well enough to accept it without judgment and blame or shame.”

“Understanding the extent to which they’re struggling with executive function is really important in helping them learn to navigate it.”

“If you’re problem-solving on homework and you’re trying to make sure they get it turned in and the real problem is getting started, then you’re not tackling the right problem.”

“We have to let go of that fierce attachment to the outcome in the short term and really invest in our relationship with them in the long term and in their relationship with themself.”


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Guest Resources:

Author, parent educator & certified coach, Elaine Taylor-Klaus is the CEO of ImpactParents.com, founded in 2011 because the support she needed as a parent wasn’t there when her three complex kids were young. Elaine co-created the Sanity School® behavior therapy training program to support parents of complex kids, and has authored Parenting ADHD Now! and The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety and More. ImpactParents provides training, coaching and support worldwide, empowering parents to guide their children, teens and young adults to become independent and successful – and to enjoy the wild ride of parenting in the process.


Dana Kay Resources: 

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International Best Selling Book, Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/

Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass – https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl

ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd

ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/



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